Dave

Starbucks has long been my third or fourth choice from a cup of drip coffee. They've always charged single-source prices for cheap, slightly burned "blends." That was bad enough, but they're now excommunicated from my morning brew choices.

Say hello to "brewed" coffee. I guess they're using the same beans, but running it through a brewer on a cup-by-cup basis, instead of filtering into a large container. Those slightly burned beans now taste totally over cooked. My "Blond" was stronger than the former drip brewed Pike's. Anyway, there's no subtle, wonderful coffee taste, like a true drip brewed Columbia Supremo or Kenya AA. NOT EVEN CLOSE. At best, it's an emergency caffeine source.

Oh, one final thing, by running the coffee through a "brewer" instead of a filter, we lose some of the anti inflammatory benefits of the beneficial anti oxidants in a good cup of pure coffee.

I've been on and off AM since 2018, with three successful, long-term relationship with wonderful women. I've written other in-depth reviews of AM, so, if you want a broader look at my experience, check those out.

I have a relatively unique perspective of seeing how women react to men on AM and, now, for the last couple of years, how men react to women.

My current GF and I started enjoying MFM threesomes around three years ago. To find more male partners, we went on AM as "Attached Female Seeking Males." Our username made it clear that we were a couple, seeking other couples and/or male/female partners.

Most of the guys are absolutely pathetic, with no game at all. First, 90% of their profiles are close to blank. Some have absolutely no background information, just age, weight, height, ethnicity and sometimes that's mostly blank.

Guys, you need to talk about your interests and what kind of relationship that you're seeking. Talk about why you're on AM, but don't badmouth your partner. Talk about respecting the woman and knowing how hard it must be for them to sign up for the site. Talk about being discreet and protecting their existing relationship and how you want to meet them in a safe place for them, when they're ready.

You don't need a book to get started, but you do need at least a couple of real paragraphs. The one-sentence come-on marks you as an idiot and immediate reject. It is VERY easy to Block a dumb ass on AM. Women will not waste time with losers that don't know how to talk to women.

When it's time to move to a chat app, suggest something like Signal, where they can use a username and not disclose their phone number until they're comfortable. Safety is HUGE for them and should be for you also.

Sending a "Wink" or "Fave" is a total waste of your money. You MUST write something responsive to her profile to have any hope of interaction. Read between her lines and try to tweak for things that seem important to her. You only get ONE CHANCE.

Based on some testing that I've done, there are around 20 men for every woman!!! The odds are, indeed, bad to start; however, if you put together the beginnings of a meaningful discussion and have a compelling profile, then your odds skyrocket vs. the bumps on a log, which are the majority of the men. It is simply pathetic.

Oh, DO be careful, because there are scammers. AM said a few weeks back that they would tighten vetting of women, but it doesn't seem to have improved. If a woman Winks at you or Faves you, out of the blue, with no note from you, she's likely a scammer and don't waste time or money pursuing her, particularly if she's considerably younger. Not me, but in the eight years that I've been on and off AM, I know of three guys that have been financially scammed, or threatened with exposure, etc. Protect your phone number until you're really comfortable, then, as soon as you get her number, do a background check. If thing don't jive, block, block, block. This is true of almost any sex dating site.

Oh, very few women want to see your penis. (There is a minority that want big penises, but they usually make that clear. If you qualify, then you should talk about it in you initial message to such a woman. More women are worried about being injured by too big). She'll ask when she's comfortable with you and ready to take it to a mattress. Some (most?) women are offended when guys lead with their penises. Yes, they really want it and that's why they're on AM, but not until they're ready.

Bottom line, you can't just check boxes and expect responses. Plan on two or three months of searching. Look morning and/or evening for new listings and respond immediately to one that interests you. They'll receive over 100 proposition in the first 24-hours, so it's best to be at the front of the line.

WOW! Can't understand the negative reviews. We met real couples quickly. It's very focused on Lifestyle couples, which is what we quickly and easily found, leading to meetings and much fun for all.

It only makes sense for those that are interested in Lifestyle connections and information. Male "bulls" and female "unicorns" might get some traction, but I think that most users are looking for other couples.

Pricing is fair and the site is intuitive and easy to navigate.

Updating again. I'm now 73 and still with my wonderful GF from 2018. In August 2020, we both went back on, looking to add one lover each. She hit pay dirt in one-week.

About three-months in, I found a GF, but after several meetings, over several month, we weren't totally compatible. 9-months in, I met a great woman online one morning, had drinks with her that afternoon and we were in bed that afternoon. Just over a month in, we're meeting weekly and have a powerful attraction and incredible sex.

My new GF had a prior AM BF for almost 2-years, but respiratory illness laid him low, so she was back to AM. Our prior experience allowed us to move fast. She had no image on AM, but sent me a video of her business Vlog. I could tell a lot from that, so I sent her my social media links within and hour and we agreed to drinks in an hour or so.

As in much of life, timing is everything, particularly for guys on AM. I think there are around 40-guys for every woman. My 66-year old GF #1 had over 100-horny come-ons within 48-hours. Her main job was culling. With a guy, particularly someone 73, like me, getting one in ten to even look at your Profile is pretty good.

One thing that GF helped me with was to say that I'm a "Professional" on my profile, because some women, like her, are looking for that. Some women are looking for "blue collar", so, if that's you, say so . Show a picture of you in a hobby and be truthful about age, height and weight. (Several women have told me about men that they've caught in lies.)

Customize your first Message. It's critical, because you will NOT get a second chance usually. I mention that I'll respect them and protect them and their existing relationship (I only approach "Attached" women). React to what she's said in her Profile. Don't cut and paste anything.

Oh, one thing that I do is share my Private Gallery before I send my Message. Since I'm 73, I'll say something like, "Please don't let that be what keeps us apart" and point out that I'm athletic, healthy AND my ED issues are a thing of the past. Women as young as 50 respond to me. (I don't Message anyone younger).

I'm very successful in life, so my experience on AM is probably better than average, BUT there really are real women here. I keep updating because there are so many negative reviews AND I keep having success.

Persistence is a must. Good luck.

There are still real women on AM!

I'm 11-months into a relationship with my girlfriend that I found through AM. In past reviews I said that I made contact with three very real women and started a relationship with my girlfriend. We're still very happy.

My girlfriend expressed interest in me seeking other women. (It's a long story). So I would periodically look for new women on AM, in my area, in my age range of 50 and above. I generally keep my Profile hidden. Last week I saw a woman that peaked my interest, so I Shared my Profile (I'm 71, but look younger), asked if she would take a minute to look at my Profile.

After two or three days of back and forth, we met for drinks after work. We were both eager for the next step, but I ultimately decided not to go forward, even with my GF's approval. The couple of days of courting were just too hectic. Keeping a GF and wife is hectic enough, but adding another GF just was too stressful for me. The new GF was very understanding and we left the door open, in case situations change.

Oh, BTW, this latest prospect had no information in her top level profile, other than age, race, weight and height. She very well could have been a cyber-Profile. I sent her my Private Profile first and then asked for hers, after she looked my Profile. NO Penis-PIX. She complained, as have other women, that they feel insulted and demeaned when a man leads with that. Yes, on AM, that's where they want to get to, but they want to be treated with some respect. Wait until the sexting starts and then the pictures will get more and more explicit.

I'm 71-years old and I'm having success with women in the 50 and above range. My GF is 64. The woman from last week is 54.

I DO keep myself in shape. My pictures are just waist-up of me in a Polo shirt. Nothing fancy, but an actual recent picture of me.

You first Message is critical. You either make it to first base, or you're out of the game. My first Message usually starts out saying that I understand their need to limit the information in their top-level Profile, lest a friend of their significant other see them and report them. I ALWAYS say that I'll respect them and will always protect their confidentiality. (I contact only women that are in relationships that they want to maintain).

Once you've seen their pictures, tell them how attractive they are and how excited that you'd be to meet them. These women want to be desired again, so start expressing it as soon as yo see them and you're attracted. If you don't find them attractive, then bow out gracefully early.

Yes, the ratio is against men, probably 20 or 30 to 1, but if you respect them, offer to protect them and are honest about yourself, you can communicate with real women that want to have sex back in their lives. Remember, your first Message is make or break. Second, I didn't talk about this much, but your Profile needs to be honest, talk about mutual respect, the need to be discreet and how you will protect them and their existing relationship.

Ideal, if you only want to Flirt. There are lots of ladies on Flirt, all very eager to nasty Chat. It's called Cyber-sex in some quarters and, apparently, many people really enjoy it.

When you try to move them from Chatting to actually meeting, they all squirm out of it. I did get to know two or three women well enough for them to admit that they're paid by the minute to chat. That's okay, but I had one or two keep waiting too long and I realized that they were chatting with two or three men at once. Anyway, Flirt is all about Chat. If that's what you like, then you'll love it. For a woman, it's a way to have fun and get paid.

They did torque me off that they make it hard to unsubscribe. It looks like you can do it online, but then they require that you call a number. They'll unsubscribe, but try to convince you to accept a free trial on another site. When I said that I'd found my lover, they wanted me to try a Couples site. I had to say, "No" about four-times before my refusal was accepted. I still received "come-ons" for a couple of weeks after I unsubscribed. It's finally died down.

If they made as easy to unsubscribe as to get on, I might have given them three-stars.

I wrote a review not long ago, covering my experience as a 70-year old man finding a wonderful woman on AM, after about three-months of looking.

I just want to quash the notion that there are no women AM. I'm absolutely sure that I met three real women on AM. I got to first base with two and one was a grand slam home run.

Realize that many real women, out of real fear for their security, don't show image in their profiles. They may also keep their profile very limited and say "Whatever Excites Me", instead of answering the questions, like, "I Like Oral Sex" .At first, I wondered if they were real, but I found out that they were.

You have to write a very nice note to get started. Sending a picture of you cock (apparently many idiots do this) will get you black listed by most. Talk about how you can't really tell if you're a match, because of their necessarily limited Profile. Have a complete Profile for yourself and a nice, current picture, preferably at least waste up. Mention that you both need to be discreet and that'll you'll protect her privacy. The man needs to make the first move to "open up." I did this by sharing my Social Media bandwidth. If you're an axxhole over there, then you might want to think of your own approach. Still, the man needs to make the first move and make the woman feel really secure about him.


I looked every day, once or twice per day, looking for women in my area, in my age range, that had just signed up. I found my girlfriend within the first hour of her signing up. The ladies get LOTS of approaches. You have to say the right things, or you will not get a second chance.


When you first sign up, yes, you'll get come-ons from young women all over the country. Yes, that's a scam, but it's run by those women, not AM. You have to be extremely careful. DO NOT go on some ravishing 24-year old's private site expecting not to get a new one ripped out of your wallet.

Use tight search criteria. I ended up with 60 and above, within 20-miles. At first, I used 50 and above and got to first base with two 50-year old women. One was 100-lbs heavier than her Profile picture and the other was a control freak. I wasted a coffee on the big gal and time on the controller.

The numbers are against men, BUT there are real women on AM and I got me one.

I'm a 70-year old male that first tried AM about three months ago. In my area (Denver) there weren't a lot of females in the 60 and above age range. The few that were there were clearly pros, that had been on the site for months or years.

At first, I searched for "Attached" women 50 and above and connected with a classy lady that is around 50. I quickly realized that she was too controlling for me, but that's the point of being able to safely chat on AM, before actually meeting.

I continued to search and restricted my search to women 60 and above. I would look daily for women new to the site. I refined my "line" focusing on how humbling it was to be on a site like this, the need to be discreet, concerns for the safety of the woman and how I was expecting/hoping for a long-term, close, affectionate relationship. Oddly, I felt a need to ask them to look at my profile, which turned out to be important, because the women are overwhelmed with solicitations.

Less than two-weeks ago, I got lucky with a sweet woman that had just signed on within the hour. We hit it off on Tuesday night, had lunch on Friday, booked a hotel room on Saturday and had our first "date" the next Thursday. She's VERY real and so am I.

Note to Attached women, don't show ANY image in your top profile. You never know which of your husband's friends might run across you. Men should respect your need for privacy and feel free to ask for your Private Profile. Even then, don't give it unless you like what they say in the first message.

Are there pros, fakes and weirdos, men and women, on AM. YES, you have to be very careful. Lots of 20 and 30-something women approached me to try to sucker me into sending money, getting on a recorded naked chat with them and extort from me. It is NOT safe, if you're not careful and wide awake. I don't really know what AM can do to make it safer. Where ever women are soliciting for sexual partners (everyone here is) then there will be scammers and extortionists. Period.


All I know is that I've found a well adjusted, beautiful woman that's become a very special partner to me.

Just remembered, when it was time to unsubscribe, it was quick and easy, with no come-ons trying to get you to "try" another site. It could all be done online, while some other sites require you to call in.